Trust & Respect VS Fear & Control

This is a biggie and will probably upset allot of people (who disagree)... If you are one of those people... 1.) Sorry in advance, but frankly i don't care. 2.) Maybe its time for you to just reconsider your beliefs and make a positive change that will only help you in the long run:D - There is nothing wrong with it and heaps to gain:D



I feel, that Relationships should be built on the foundation of respect and trust vs fear and control.Do you really respect your partner? Do you really trust each other that you will do right by each other? Do you really want "the best" for your loved one? or do fears, concerns and insecurities come in and help you come up with "the rules" and "ways to change or control" each other's behaviors and actions? and... create solutions that is best for your self? :D 

E.G. Do you say, You have a very nice body, I am scared of other women/men becoming more attracted to you please do not take your shirt off. OrDo you Say, you have a very nice body, I understand you have worked hard for it and that you love your body, I am proud to be next to you when you have your shirt off.

The unfortunate thing about fears, concerns & insecurities is that they look like they are helping "prevent" the "end of your world" but in truth, their suggestions & ideas only makes an individual behave and think in a way that will inevitably bring forth either the destruction of the relationship or a life of unhappiness and chaos. If not immediately, most certainly in due time.


Trust & respect always brings very closely with them the eternal energy called love... Love is unavoidable in the constant presence of  trust and respect. Among trust and respect love grows and becomes stronger. Among fear & control, love becomes confused and weak.


Bottom line i feel is that nothing rivals trust and respect as the core for building a truly genuinely loving relationship that can last the distance. With trust & respect people grow, people get pushed to go forward and keep going further and reach much higher. Fear & control gradually shrinks a relationship, persons individuality, holds people back, limits our potential.


It is SO much easier to allow our fears and insecurities kick in and do all the work and "create all the rules" however it is always the second worst mistake an individual makes in a relationship. It is definitely much harder to "work" on "your own" "insecurities" and "concerns"... BUT by doing the "right work" that doesn't that show how much you really love and respect your other half or how much your other half really loves you?:D


I hope this has someway helped you either open your eyes or open your heart, if not, maybe one day this writing will pop in your mind and start helping you make the right changes to create a genuinely loving relationship and beautiful life.

PSRemember I said sorry in advance:D...




Brian Pearce
Always Learning & Enjoying Life
brian.ruela.pearce@gmail.com